It can be very easy during a contested family law matter to feel that the other side is “getting away” with bad behavior, and to want to strike back. But as the old adage goes, two wrongs don’t make a right. And in the family court, two wrongs can have the court take a stern view of both parties; something to be wary of when all a court may have in the end is to determine which person is more credible than the other.
Trying to make the other side look bad is not often advisable in family court. Doing what you can to make sure you are doing the right thing, both in terms of court rules, and keeping the children out of the middle, can afford you the opportunity to be seen in a more favorable light by the court. Remember that having the judge believe you over the other side may be the most important factor in your case; and if the other person is not doing the right thing, they will make themselves look bad all on their own.
Before taking any aggressive action against the other person, or trying to create a narrative that you think will help you and hurt them, you should talk to your attorney. Having an attorney who can guide you in the best way to make your case (even if that means sitting back for a while), may be the best path in helping yourself in family court.
For any family court matter, please reach out to one of the attorneys at Lee & Decker Family Law, LLC.